Friday, February 12, 2016

HERE IT IS! The link to the talk show where I was the special guest


HERE IT IS!  The link to the talk show where I was the special guest

After a rather lengthy introduction (about 5 minutes) my presentation begins.

Sam Sewell

Presents "COME TO THINK OF IT”

Sam comes back on our show to share some very powerful concepts that are at the foundation of a healthy and happy life here on earth.


Sam and his wife, Bunny (who is also a pastoral psychotherapist), met in 1989 when she was a guest at a wedding he was officiating in Goodland. As they prepare to celebrate their 25th anniversary, the two are partners in everything they do.

Through Best Self USA (a practice Sam opened in Kansas before moving toNaples), the Sewells and their associates provide counseling as well as executive coaching and management training.

“Not everyone needs psychotherapy,” Sam says. “Most problems can be solved by learning skills. Solution-focused education costs less money and is faster than psychotherapy.

Sometimes all people need is to learn how to do it right.” ¦

“The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.” 
Nikola Tesla

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Sunday, May 29, 2011

Saturday, July 11, 2009

Bunny's Mother showing that she is eccentric.

15. They resist enculturation. Self-actualizers tend to be nonconformists since they are inner-directed people. If a cultural norm is contrary to their personal values they simply will not adhere to it.













Friday, June 12, 2009

Being Cognition Compared to Deficiency Cognition

Links for "Becoming Your Best Self"

Ordinary and Marvelous! - A Peek at the Peak

The Traits of a Self-Actualized Person

Being Cognition Compared to Deficiency Cognition

B-COGNITION -- 1. Seen as whole, as complete, self-sufficient, as unitary. Either "Cosmic Consciousness" as described by Richard Maurice Bucke (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Maurice_Bucke), in which whole cosmos is perceived as single thing with oneself belonging in it; or else the person, object, or portion of the world seen is seen as if it were the whole world, i.e., rest of world is forgotten. Integrative perceiving of unities. Unity of the world or object perceived.
D-COGNITION -- 1. Seen as part, as incomplete, not self-sufficient, as dependent upon other things.

B-COGNITION -- 2. Exclusively, fully narrowly attended to; absorption, fascination, focal attention; total attention. Tends to de-differentiate figure and ground. Richness of detail; seen from many sides. Seen with "care," totally, intensely, with complete investment. Totally cathected. Relative importance becomes unimportant; all aspects equally important.
D-COGNITION -- 2. Attended to with simultaneous attention to all cause that is relevant. Sharp figure ground differentiation. Seen imbedded in relationships to all else in world, as part of the world. Rubricized; seen from some aspects only; selective attention and selective inattention to some aspects; seen casually, seen only from some point of view.

B-COGNITION -- 3. No comparing (in Dorothy Lee's sense). Seen per se, in itself, by itself. Not in competition with anything Else. Sole member of the class (in Hartman's sense).
D-COGNITION -- 3. Placing on a continuum or within a series; comparing, judging, evaluating. Seen as a member of a class, as an instance, a sample.

B-COGNITION -- 4. Human-irrelevant.
D-COGNITION -- 4. Relevant to human concerns; e.g., what good is it, what can it be used for, is it good for or dangerous to people, etc.

B-COGNITION -- 5. Made richer by repeated experiencing. More & more perceived. Intra-object richness.
D-COGNITION -- 5. Repeated experiencing impoverishes, reduces richness, makes it less interesting and attractive, takes away its demand-character. Familiarization leads to boredom.

B-COGNITION -- 6. Seen as unneeded, as purposeless, as not desired, as unmotivated perceiving.
Perceived as if it had no reference to the needs of the perceiver. Can therefore be seen as independent, in its own right.
D-COGNITION -- 6. Motivated perceiving. Object seen as need-gratifier, as useful or not useful.
B-COGNITION -- 7. Object-centering. Self-forgetful, ego-transcending, unselfish, disinterested. Therefore,
it-centered. Identification and fusion of perceiver and perceived. So absorbed and poured into the experience that self disappears, so that whole experience can be organized around the object itself as a centering point or organizing point. Object uncontaminated and unconfused with self. Abnegation of the perceiver.
D-COGNITION -- 7. Organized around ego as a centering point, which means projection of the ego
into the perception, not of the object alone, but of the object mixed-with-self-of-the-perceiver.

B-COGNITION -- 8. The object is permitted to be itself. Humble, receptive, passive, choiceness, undemanding. Taoistic, noninterference with the object or percept. “Let be” acceptance.
D-COGNITION -- 8. Active shaping, organizing, and selecting by the perceiver. He shifts it, rearranges it. He works at it. This must be more fatiguing than B-cognizing, which probably is fatigue-
curing. Trying, striving, effort. Will, control.

B-COGNITION -- 9. Seen as end in itself, self-validating. Self-justifying. Intrinsically interesting for its own sake. Has intrinsic value.
D-COGNITION -- 9. A means, an instrument, not having self-contained worth but having only
exchange value, or standing for something else, or a ticket to some other place.


B-COGNITION -- 10. Outside of time and space. Seen as eternal, universal. "A minute is a day; a day is a
minute." Disorientation of perceiver in time and space, not conscious of surroundings. Percept not related to surroundings. Ahistorical.
D-COGNITION -- 10. In time and space. Temporal. Local. Seen in history, & in the physical world.

B-COGNITION -- 11. The characteristics of Being are perceived as Values of Being.
D-COGNITION -- 11. D-Values are means-values, i.e., usefulness, desirability-undesirability, suitability
For a purpose. Evaluations, comparisons, condemnations, approvals, or disapprovals, judgments upon.

B-COGNITION -- 12. Absolute (because timeless and spaceless, because detached from the ground, because taken per se, because rest of world and history all forgotten). This is compatible with the perception of process and shifting, alive organizations within the perception-but it is strictly within the perception.
D-COGNITION -- 12. Relative to history, to culture, to characterology, to local values, to the interests and needs of man. It is-felt to be passing. Depends on man for its reality; if man were to disappear, it would disappear. Shifting from one syndrome to another as a whole, i.e., it is now a bit in this syndrome, now a bit
in that syndrome.

B-COGNITION -- 13. Resolution of dichotomies, polarities, conflicts. Inconsistencies seen to exist simultaneously and to be sensible and necessary, i.e., to be seen as a higher unity or integration, or under a superordinate whole.
D-COGNITION -- 13. Aristotelian logic, i.e. separate things seen as dissected and cut off and quite different from each other, mutually exclusive, often with antagonistic interests.

B-COGNITION -- 14. Concretely (and abstractly) perceived. All aspects at once. Therefore ineffable (to ordinary language); describable if at all, by poetry, art, etc., but even this will make sense only to bee who has already had same experience. Essentially aesthetic experience (in Northrop's sense). Nonchoosing preferring or selecting. Seen in its muchness (different from the concrete perception of young children, of primitive adults, or of brain-injured people because it coexists with abstract ability).
D-COGNITION -- 14. Only abstract, categorized diagrammatic, rubricized, schematized. Classifying. Reduction to the abstract."

B-COGNITION -- 15. The idiographic object; the concrete, unique instance. Classification impossible (except for abstracted aspects) because sole member of its class.
D-COGNITION -- 15. Nomothetic, general, statistical lawfulness.

B-COGNITION -- 16. Increase of dynamic isomorphism between inner and outer worlds. As the essential Being of the world is perceived by the person, so also does he concurrently come closer to his own Being; and vice versa.
D-COGNITION -- 16. Decreased isomorphism.

B-COGNITION -- 17. Object often perceived as sacred, holy, every special." It demands" or Calls for" awe, reverence, piety, wonder.
D-COGNITION -- 17. Object Normal," everyday, ordinary, familiar, nothing special, Familiarized away."

B-COGNITION -- 18. World and self often (not always) seen as amusing, playful, comic, funny, absurd, laughable; but also as poignant. Laughter (which is close to tears). Philosophical humor, humors. World, person, child, etc., seen as cute, absurd, charming, lovable. May produce mixed laughing-crying. Fusion of comic-tragic dichotomy.
D-COGNITION -- 18. Lesser forms of humor, if seen at all. Serious things quite different from amusing things. Hostile humor, humorlessness. Solemnity.

B-COGNITION -- 19. Noninterchangeable. Not replaceable. No one else will do.
D-COGNITION -- 19. Interchangeable. Replaceable. Characteristics of Being-Cognition and Deficiency-Cognition of the World'


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Saturday, June 6, 2009

Archived Call The Shrink for June 5th - Dr. Landrum

Hear Dr Gene Landrum, professor, author, Innovator & Super Senior, talking about his latest book: THE INNOVATIVE MIND; Stop Thinking & Start Being

Click on the link below to listen to the Call The Shrink with Sam and Bunny Show - BECOMING OUR BEST SELVES! Part TWO - Dr. Gene Landrum show

(allow up to two full minutes for download)http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Sentinel_Radio/2009/06/06/Call-The-Shrink-with-Sam-and-Bunny-BECOMING-OUR-BEST-SELVES-Part-TWO-Dr-Gene-Landrum

Go to www.genelandrum.com to order a copy of The Innovative Mind. Mention this program and receive a Free CD of his book!

Go to www.ifiredmydoctors.blogspot.com to order a copy of Sam & Bunny’s book for Father’s Day!

Autographed copies available in Naples: call 239/591-4565 or email bunnysam@bestselfusa.com; Free mailing for Father’s Day!
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Friday, June 5, 2009

The Being-values

The B-values

WHOLENESS (unity; integration; tendency to one-ness; interconnectedness; simplicity; organization; structure; dichotomy-transcendence; order);

PERFECTION (necessity; just-right-ness; just-so-ness; inevitability; suitability; justice; completeness; "oughtness");

COMPLETION (ending; finality; justice; "it's finished"; fulfillment; finis and telos; destiny; fate);

JUSTICE (fairness; orderliness; lawfulness; "oughtness");

ALIVENESS (process; non-deadness; spontaneity; self-regulation; full-functioning);

RICHNESS (differentiation, complexity; intricacy);

SIMPLICITY (honesty; nakedness; essentiality; abstract, essential, skeletal structure);

BEAUTY (rightness; form; aliveness; simplicity; richness; wholeness; perfection; completion; uniqueness; honesty);

GOODNESS (rightness; desireability; oughtness; justice; benevolence; honesty);

UNIQUENESS (idiosyncrasy; individuality; non-comparability; novelty);

EFFORTLESSNESS (ease; lack of strain, striving or difficulty; grace; perfect, beautiful functioning);

PLAYFULNESS (fun; joy; amusement; gaiety; humor; exuberance; effortlessness);

TRUTH (honesty; reality; nakedness; simplicity; richness; oughtness; beauty; pure, clean and unadulterated; completeness; essentiality).

SELF-SUFFICIENCY (autonomy; independence; not-needing-other-than-itself-in-order-to-be-itself; self-determining; environment-transcendence; separateness; living by its own laws).